I graduated from college a few years ago. It was a time when I was quite active on Tinder, and had a lot of consensual hookups, and was cheating on my gf at the time (I have since learned, and to this day I still regret it). But after I graduated, it began to dawn on me how much suffering has been caused by casual hookup culture. Every time I slept with someone, I just felt empty afterward. The culture of sex and love has led humanity, including me, chasing momentary adrenaline rush but no emotional bond. I have joked about sex in unhealthy ways that I have now realized to be toxic. I have read a lot of recent news about sexual violence that happened at my college and felt that casual sex has led society and me astray. I have created strained relationships with my exes, and I have been slandered by rumors of my sexuality when I am perfectly straight and healthy and learned to be respectful of women over time (I wholeheartedly followed the "bro code" and "age code" and asked for consent to the best of my knowledge), although slightly socially awkward so sometimes behave in ways that have caused all kinds of weird rumors. I thereby abstain from sex until I meet my next love, and will channel my energy into my career. I am writing this post as a record and a reminder for myself.
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